How Do I Know If I Am Ready To Be A Mother?

Being a mother is the natural and normal desire of most women, but it is also true that it is not a game or a decision to be made lightly. Therefore, it is good for every woman to know if she is ready to be a mother both physically and emotionally.

The desire to be a mother …

Being a mother implies being responsible, having time and desire. It is not learned with any academic or university course. Being a mother is something natural that happens to us at a certain point in our life. The biological clock of the woman starts up and the desire to be a mother appears within her.

How do I know if I am ready?

Have the desire to be a mother

If a desire appears within you that you cannot control, an irrepressible desire to start a family, a thought that repeats itself all the time, it is probably the right time to be a mother. Don’t be afraid of failing or what others may tell you. Being a mother is something that you learn over time. Once you feel ready, holding your child will teach you how to be a good mother every day.

If, on the contrary, just the thought of being a mother causes you anxiety or frustration, if fear is stronger than emotion or if the idea of ​​having a child causes you concern, you may have to think better of it, that exaggerated insecurity may indicate that you are not there. sufficiently prepared.

You must prepare yourself emotionally

Being a mother is not a hobby or fun, it is a serious responsibility that you will have for a lifetime.  A mother never ceases to be a mother, even if the children have grown up and have their own family.

That is why every woman should feel prepared to be a mother, without receiving pressure of any kind due to her age, environment or circumstances. Being a mother implies being willing to give up your time to share it with someone who needs you, to put aside many times your pleasures and your goals to try to achieve new ones.

Plan the economy

Although it goes without saying that the most important thing for your child will not be a home full of luxuries and whims but a home full of love and affection, it is true that when considering being a mother you will have to plan well the household economy.

You should not only think about the expenses that the arrival of a new member to the home will already cause, but also the additional costs that will appear later: the forecast of medical expenses, education, clothing, etc.

Couple decision

If you have a partner, the decision to be a mother is not yours alone. It must be an illusion shared by both of you and you must both want it with longing. You must be convinced that being parents will mean a change in your lives, because as we have said before, having a child is a serious responsibility as well as, of course, a joy.

You do not force yourself to be a mother

Never make the decision to be a forced mother by anyone. Probably the decision to be a mother will be one of the most important of your life. It must be a choice for you and your partner, which has to be well thought out and planned.

If after thinking about it a lot you decide that being a mother is not for you and that you prefer to lead a life as a couple or alone, do not worry. Perhaps your moment has not yet come. The most important thing is that you are confident and happy with the decision you make.

Be clear that your life will change

It is important that you are clear that the arrival of a child will change your life completely; What’s more, in many ways you will feel that it turns it upside down. If you have this clear and you do not mind living this new challenge, you are ready to undertake the new adventure of being a mother.

In addition , being a mother does not mean that you can no longer enjoy anything in life, far from it, but you do have to be aware that the life that begins will be very different from the one you have had until now.

From now on your plans, goals, objectives and everything you decide and do will have to be based on your child. Think that many times their needs will have to overlap yours. 

Do not be afraid, very soon you will realize that having a child is a wonderful experience that makes you happy, brings out the best in you and gives you a new opportunity to smile every day. Being a mother will make you feel essential in the life of that new person who will come to this world helpless and will be without a doubt the best experience you have ever had.