What Happens When Children Grow Up Without Limits?
When children grow up without limits, they end up getting lost and feeling insecure and disoriented. If we go along a path and there is no barrier that indicates that the path ends on a cliff, in the end we will end up falling.
Something like this happens with minors who grow up without any limitation that indicates which direction they should take and what dangers they have to avoid. Boundaries are important for children’s psychological health.
What happens when children grow up without limits?
The easiest thing to stop hearing our son crying when he wants something is to always give it to him. In this way, we will stop hearing their screams and sobs that, most of the time, will lead to a tantrum. This may help calm him down in the short term, but there will be consequences in the long run.
If the little one does not find limits and norms throughout his childhood and adolescence, do you know what can happen? We’ll tell you then.
If children grow up without limits, there will be consequences
Have a low tolerance for frustration
When a child has not experienced the fact that everything cannot be achieved, he will not know what frustration is. Therefore, as soon as there is something that does not turn out as he would like, he will not know how to deal with the feeling of frustration.
If children grow up without limits, they will feel confused and disoriented
When a child lacks limits, he will understand it as a lack of affection and attention on the part of his parents. He will grow up with these feelings and end up blaming his parents for it.
He will not value what he has, he will be a capricious child
If you get everything you want, this is what you will do is make your desire ever greater. If you get everything you want easily, you will not perceive the value of things, because you will not have had to make any effort to get them.
You will feel unprotected
Lack of limits will lead to low self-esteem and a lack of self-confidence.
Will become a manipulator
If since childhood he has managed to manipulate parents to get what he wanted, when he is older he will have learned to manipulate to get what he wants. They are what we call “little tyrants”, who end up being manipulative and pushy teenagers.
You will not know how to control your emotions
The emptiness they feel from the lack of limitations will end up creating a void in their life and an inability to control sadness or anger. You will end up being unhappy.
He will not have patience and he will not know how to wait
If from a young age we tell our son to everything yes, he will end up thinking that things do not need effort to achieve them. He will be impatient, he will act on impulse and, if he does not get something immediately, he will end up despairing and this will cause anger and confusion.
Difficulties in your social relationships
If you have not had limits, you may end up overcoming the barrier of respect for others in your relationship with others and, in this way, you will end up driving people away from your side.
Lack of self-control when children grow up without limits
Limits also teach responsibility, mark the limits of oneself and make one learn to self-manage from a young age.
Feeling of insecurity
A child who has no imposed limits will not know what to do and what not to do. A minor needs these limitations to be able to function adequately in his life.
When children grow up without limits, how can we apply them?
Setting limits for our children does not mean that we impose ourselves on them in meaningless matters. Nor does it mean violating their rights, not letting them speak, give their opinion or yell at them. It is to establish rules and limitations agreed with them, respecting their freedom and being flexible. How can we establish them?
Be flexible with the rules, but always make it clear where the limit is
The rules have to be clear so as not to create confusion and they have to be explained to the children so that they understand why they are set.
The limits have to be agreed by both parents
They have to be established and respected by both, so we have to reach an agreement on what our son can and cannot do.
Never give in
We must not “go soft.” L os limits must always be applied. If we skip them one day, then it will be very difficult to re-establish them.
Put them with respect
Setting limits does not mean that we use the law of the fittest. We can and must apply them out of love and respect for our children.
The most important bases are love and values
If we apply the limits following certain values, the child will have solid, reasoned and strong pillars in their education.
When children grow up without limits …
In short, if children grow up without limits, they will end up lost, disoriented and with a lack of security, and this will end up damaging their health, especially psychological. You have already seen how important it is to set limits if you want your child to grow up healthy and happy.
Now we only need to implement some of the tips that we have seen in this article. What are you waiting for? Get to work!
